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Today is Day #51 of our Nar Anon Group Just For Today Challenge. I am also integrating the Live Happy into my Challenge. The Live Happy Challenge for today is about "the talk".
The book says,
Most men and women find bringing up this topic a little tricky. You know what give you pleasure. And you know what you like.
Here is an easy way to enter the discussion about sex. Talk about how the ancients did it. Read the Kama Sutra or a book about Tantric yoga practices that utilize the sexual act as a means to enlightenment.
Read about the practices of the ancient Greeks and Romans or the erotic exploits of the Victorians (some of them weren't as prudish about sex as you might think).
The point is to go from general to specific. Of course, if you are already "performing" you could whisper in your partners ear how you'd like to be pleasured.
Don't forget to ask your partner what they too like. That way, you'll both be breathlessly happy.