Friday, August 12, 2016

Challenge Myself: Day #59 Grandparent Interaction

Today is Day #59 of our Nar Anon Group Just For Today Challenge. I am also integrating the Live Happy into my Challenge. The Live Happy Challenge for today is about respecting grand parents

The book says,

If your children have grown up with grandparents around, they are truly lucky. Grandparents are repositories of memories and details of a bygone era and as such are often treasure troves of information for younger generations.

Encourage lively discourse between the older and younger generations of your family. Teach your children why their grandparents are special.

Encourage them to do an oral history project, interviewing their grandparents for true stories about growing up in a different time (and especially in a different place) in the world.

Grandparents today face so many challenges in this heroin epidemic. Many are grandparenting their grandchildren. Others are like us, because of disputes related to addiction and divorce are separated from our grandchildren.

We have an ex daughter in law who doesn't allow us visitation with two of our grandchildren for reasons pertaining to drug addiction. She herself has problems with addiction. The strain on the relationship between us deals with confrontations about drug addiction when she was married to our son.

This has been going on for years and the battle of the grandchildren started while our son was still married to his ex wife.

We noticed it was coming against us when I stopped enabling the now ex-daughter in law and our sons drug addiction years ago.

It is a long story.

I don't push it with her because they are ages nine and eleven they know that their mother and their father suffers from drug addiction.
Those two have seen more than any child should have to witness.
We know that one day those two will be old enough to make decisions and if they should choose I will always tell them the truth although they already know what caused the contention. We don't push things because we don't want to make matters worse on them.

For the most part, the ex daughter in laws mother has raised the two boys.

Just For Today: I am grateful for memories.

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Grandparent Visitation
Family Law in 50 States

Pic From Grandparents House Rules

From the book: Live Happy

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